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Preparing for the marital journey
“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish."
- Luke 14:28-30
Pre-marital Services
What are the services?
Our pre-marital process can be summarized by three phases: a thorough assessment, professional feedback, and the empowerment of relevant tools, tailored to the strengths and work areas of the engaged couple.
Who do you serve?
We serve engaged couples who are primarily referred by clergy
How does this work?
This works one of three ways: Couples sessions by Zoom (In-person is possible), Group sessions for multiple couples (Usually a whole day or 2-day event), and/or a Weekend Retreat for a large group (like a church).
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Phase #1:
The Assessment
As a certified facilitator of the Prepare/Enrich program, Dr. White provides an invitation for couples to take an online assessment. This is NOT a test, this is research based, culturally competent instrument that utilizes ten core scales that assess couple’s relationship health. The information that is gathered from the assessment becomes the basis of the feedback phase.
Phase #2:
The Feedback
Since this is not a test, no one passes or fails. The purpose of the feedback is to share the data from the assessment that highlights strengths as well as work areas. This empowers each couple with an understanding of where they are, the strengths they are working with, and the areas where they may need to sure up. Awareness is the key takeaway.
Phase #3:
The Tools
This process does not determine whether a couple should get married or not. Instead, for adults who have decided to get married, this last phase is designed to equip each couple with tools to put in their tool box. Some tools may need to be implemented as soon as possible. However, other tools may not become as necessary until they get further in life. Either way, the couple will have an arsenal of tools to support their success.
How we support Pastors
Pastoring is more than a full-time job...it is a life calling. Our hope is that our direct support of engaged couples can be an indirect support to Pastors. The intense level of assessment we provide takes a load off the plate of clergy without stealing their unique role of pastoring partitioners through their process.
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Our goal is to do an excellent job of delivering:
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Excellent data that pinpoints the relational status of the engaged couple
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Feedback to the couple based on the identification of strengths and work areas
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A collaborative support to the pastor from a therapeutic perspective that increases ministry to congregations and the community.
"I don't want to be relieved from ministry, but sometimes I believe ministers need competent support that helps us minister at a higher level. That's what this does. "